Victory = achievement of mastery or success in a struggle or endeavor against odds or difficulties.
Our view of victory changes the older we get. We start as children proclaiming victory after we have defeated someone in a game, mastered the monkey bars, or learned how to ride a bike without training wheels.
We graduate to winning tournaments, competitions, an aced test, passing our driving test...
Then we enter the time where a victory could be getting a new car, a new job, graduating college, starting a new business, or buying a house. And then some of us become moms...
As a mom we tend to lose our sense of victory. If you asked a handful of moms what their idea of a victory was they would probably say something like this...
"Losing my last 10 pounds of baby weight."
"Getting my house completely tidied up."
"Finishing the laundry."
"Not yelling at my kids all day."
"Cooking dinner for the family."
And those are HUGE victories. I am a mom to 4 kids believe me, I GET IT. The problem is, a lot of times we will have a victory and then we turn it into a comparison or a criticism. You finished the laundry and then you immediately start criticizing yourself because you haven't worked out. Or you cooked dinner and then feel bad because you destroyed your kitchen in the process. Here's a big one - you start comparing yourself to the mom in your child's class that looks like she has all of her ducks in a row - all day and all the time - and you wished you could figure out her secret...
Here's the thing - you're a mom and your kids are alive and well - BOOM. You're immediately crowned victorious.
Oh, here's another thing - stop criticizing yourself. Instead of thinking of all the ways you failed today, think of all the things you did right. Because you did A LOT of things right.
We have this expectation in our heads that we are somehow, one day, going to accomplish everything that needs done in one day. Not happening, so stop torturing yourself. I know this all too well. I am writing this because I need to have this truth in my head just as much as you do. <3
So, again - Victory = achievement of mastery or success in a struggle or endeavor against odds or difficulties. As a mother we will face all kinds of odds and difficulties. That is why it's so important for us to know and acknowledge what a victory truly is for us! What is a mom victory? That could mean potty training and your child did not wet his or her pants. VICTORY! That could mean you cleaned the kitchen at least once today. VICTORY! It could mean you didn't eat the last piece of cake even though you literally had to put trash on it to keep from eating it. STILL A VICTORY.
We do not see everyone's battles. The seemingly perfect mom may look perfect and may act perfect around you, but I promise there is a battle going on somewhere and she wishes that she was somehow different too...
Fellow mama, we need to stop trading in our victories for criticism and comparison and instead take comfort and joy in even the smallest victories we accomplish every. single. day. <3