We are out of control.
We look at our daughters and we are trying to raise them to be kind and inclusive. And then the very moment a mom doesn't do exactly what we think is right, we become accusatory and sometimes flat out mean. Double standard much?
There is nothing wrong with raising our children differently. It has always been that way and it will always be that way. Is giving yourself the idea that you're the most right about a situation more valuable to you than relationships? Because I'll be honest, every time I see one of these arguments it does nothing but make me question the relationship I do have with this person. I don't need that kind of negativity and neither do you.
One of the Bible verses my mom used to quote all the time when I was growing up was "Encourage one another and build each other up..." That's what we need my fellow moms. We don't need our own people badgering us. We need to ENCOURAGE ONE ANOTHER. What are we doing right? What mom win did you have today? What can I do to help? Need me to listen?
I have learned that I have plenty on my plate raising my own children and making sure I am who I need to be for my family. I have ZERO time available to debate these subjects. And I promise you I have a list about a mile long of things I do as a mother that could cause women all over the world to have a hay day over my life choices. It's none of their business though. You don't need to know every decision I make. I am learning life as it hits me and so are you. No one is a master of the parenting role.
I think moms of all shapes, sizes, beliefs, goals, political views, medical views, are AWESOME. We are all incredibly unique in our own way and we are all on a journey. We may all have kids, but we receive them differently, we raise them differently, and we love differently. That is what makes having friends an amazing treasure. We can learn from eachother.
So next time you want to engage in a Facebook mom fight. Abstain. Think about your son or daughter you are raising. Would you want them to act this way? Think about whether or not you would rather be "right" or be kind. Think about how this will affect your relationship in the long run. At the end of the day I feel we all would rather have the mom bond, instead of ending a relationship over an issue that will change the next day.