Let's talk about mom fights...


I shared this on my personal facebook page and thought that I would share it with you all as well. This is something that has been on my heart for quite some time and the other night I finally had a moment to share some thoughts on how I feel about the "Mom Fight Trend." We all have differences, but I think the way we confront each other as moms needs to change! We are all on this parenting journey together and we need each other to help build us up when we are down. We don't need the extra kicks when we are feeling low! Please read and know that I am speaking from a place of adoration for moms. <3 
Moms...we have been endowed with an enormous capacity to love and nurture. We use this every day to take care of our families. At the end of the day we crave outside world contact. People that identify with what we are going through. And it is to these very people that we identify the most with, that we are the most cruel.
I have scrolled through Facebook lately and have witnessed brutal arguments between moms. It could be about car seats, politics, vaccines, schooling...if you name it, I bet there is a mom fight going on somewhere talking about how it is or isn't right.

We are out of control.

We look at our daughters and we are trying to raise them to be kind and inclusive. And then the very moment a mom doesn't do exactly what we think is right, we become accusatory and sometimes flat out mean. Double standard much?

There is nothing wrong with raising our children differently. It has always been that way and it will always be that way. Is giving yourself the idea that you're the most right about a situation more valuable to you than relationships? Because I'll be honest, every time I see one of these arguments it does nothing but make me question the relationship I do have with this person. I don't need that kind of negativity and neither do you.

One of the Bible verses my mom used to quote all the time when I was growing up was "Encourage one another and build each other up..." That's what we need my fellow moms. We don't need our own people badgering us. We need to ENCOURAGE ONE ANOTHER. What are we doing right? What mom win did you have today? What can I do to help? Need me to listen?

I have learned that I have plenty on my plate raising my own children and making sure I am who I need to be for my family. I have ZERO time available to debate these subjects. And I promise you I have a list about a mile long of things I do as a mother that could cause women all over the world to have a hay day over my life choices. It's none of their business though. You don't need to know every decision I make. I am learning life as it hits me and so are you. No one is a master of the parenting role.

I think moms of all shapes, sizes, beliefs, goals, political views, medical views, are AWESOME. We are all incredibly unique in our own way and we are all on a journey. We may all have kids, but we receive them differently, we raise them differently, and we love differently. That is what makes having friends an amazing treasure. We can learn from eachother. 

So next time you want to engage in a Facebook mom fight. Abstain. Think about your son or daughter you are raising. Would you want them to act this way? Think about whether or not you would rather be "right" or be kind. Think about how this will affect your relationship in the long run. At the end of the day I feel we all would rather have the mom bond, instead of ending a relationship over an issue that will change the next day.


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